Superheroes have as many strengths to channel as weaknesses to deal with.

You will generally find that when a character has as many extraordinary abilities as the superhero, but uses them for evil purposes, they become the Villain or the Public Enemy. Which means that one of the major elements that makes a superhero a superhero are their values. Many are superheroes in their environment: within their family, their community, or their company, on the basis of their abilities or their contribution. Without them, everyone is almost certain that things will fall apart or not work out as well.

“If you are one of those to whom others turn to for a solution to a difficult or impossible problem, if you have a fairly unique expertise, that is deemed superior to that of others, if you take great pleasure in saving the day, finding solutions, and if on top of that you have a strong sense of duty and responsibility, you’re probably a real-world superhero or superheroine in your own right, though like all superheroes, you don’t always admit it in public.”

As much as the superhero has qualities, they need to watch out on not overplaying their strengths or growing in other areas. Unlike others, and like any superhero (or superheroine), his or her adventure of self-criticism and growth, only he or she can do it. From the ability to know how to collaborate with others and work as a team, to the need to know how to choose your battles, superheroes (or superheroines) have as many weaknesses as the others.

Not investing your time to learn from your victories and failures to grow, is a risk of losing expertise, both for superheroes and for ordinary people. Below are some self-coaching questions to help you take the growth journey on your own.

It is time for your self-coaching session

Instructions for self-coaching:

Find a quiet place where you won’t be distracted for about 30 minutes.

Pick a time when you’re sure you won’t be interrupted. Get a pen and a notepad, journal, or free sheet if you want.

Sit comfortably and clear your mind. Prepare to listen to yourself. When you’re ready, ask yourself the questions below, and answer them to yourself, candidly.

You are in a space of trust with yourself, no one but you can hear you. You are free to ask yourself one question or all three questions one after the other. The most important thing is to follow through with each question and each answer, and ask yourself any additional questions that come to mind from each of your answers, in order to find out more about yourself- and find get the real answers.

Question 1: What are your unique skills, the ones that set you apart from others?

Question 2: What does it mean to you to always be on top? to consistently deliver results beyond expectations? to be able to provide the solution that resolves the problem? Question 3: What really motivates you to intervene? What motivates you to want to take action where others may have failed? What drives you to act to resolve situations?

Closing question:What did this moment of self-reflection teach you about yourself that you didn’t know before? What do you remember from this moment of questioning? What do you remember from this moment of self-refflexion?

Final Word:

Whether you like it or not, be consodered a super-heros by people around you comes with inevitable responsibilities.

Remember that you will not always be up to expectations

There will be moments of victory as well as times of failure It is therefore important for all super-heroes to take care of themselves, and to learn to be realistic while remaing the perfectionist they are.

D. Manou-Assoko